You can't heal what you haven't fully experienced and accepted. Suffering is part of life. Though hard, unpleasant, annoying and difficult, the only way past suffering is through it - everything else is merely delaying the inevitable.
Writer, critic, essayist, Proust is considered by many to be one of the greatest authors of all time. Full disclosure: I have not read Proust cover-to-cover. Waiting to read in French--ha!